Who You’re Around (Friends vs Frienemies)

No one said the road would be easy, but it also doesn't have to be traveled alone...
No one said the road would be easy, but it also doesn’t have to be traveled alone…

Hey fam,
For most of us, we got a get out of work free card today and just seek to relax. But since it is Monday… as promised I’m going to post regardless! So today I’m going to talk about who you’re around. Are the ones who call you friend really your friends? The past few weeks I’ve been plagued with questions about what true friendship is. Whenever I think I’m done, I come up with more and more illustrations of what friendship really is.
So a little off topic but not really, there’s this song by Meek Mill  (I really don’t listen to him anymore) but he had this song on one of his earlier mixtapes called who you’re around. The hook went like this, “somebody who you’re around wants to clip your wings and shoot you down but it’s okay to keep enemies close as long as you know, just make sure you know who you’re around.”
This song makes so much sense because I know people who are harboring friends or frienemies on a daily basis. And you know what’s really bad? When after you’ve  defended this person, they turn out to be exactly what everyone else said they were while you sat there blindly defending them. I feel for those individuals… I have been blessed with the spirit of discernment and it has rarely  failed me (most likely me being hard headed– I can admit to that lol). I seek out vibes that connect with mines and back away from those that radiates things I want no part of.
So people say that you’re just like the people you hang around… but I find that to be false bc I surround myself with very eclectic individuals, but I’m not just like all of them… rather I can connect to pieces of them and choose to love the rest of the package.
My question to you all today (and feel free to leave your answer in the comment section) is what are the characteristics of a good friend?
I’ll start (with what I think)… a friend is someone you can reach out to in times of need, but also to just laugh or have meaningless conversation with. A person you can share your hopes and dreams with and trust them to harbor them as if they were there own, never allowing to let you let your dreams die. Someone you can sit in silence with for hours and then say “it was great seeing you” only being comforted by their mere presence. A friend is not a “yes man or woman”! They will let you know when you are wrong, but not judge you for your mistakes. A person who continues to build you up, and not tear you down. A friendship is like an exchange of power (rather comfort) where you feed off the energy of each other, NOT where one person feels emotionally drained after every interaction. A friend will guide you into the LIGHT and not lead you into darkness! A friend is LOYAL, kind, and true! And won’t fail to be blatantly honest in their constructive criticism if they need to! A friend doesn’t stress over how much they see you, knowing that time and distance means nothing to true friendship. (Technology has progressed for a reason lol). Someone who understands you besides your faults and accepts you for who you are, but still pushes you to be GREATER! A friend is someone you can pray to, with, and for! Okay I’m done lol because I’m sure I could write a book on this…
The bible says in Proverbs 27:17(NLT)As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
This is the way it should be!!! I’ve been extremely blessed to know incredible people (not only the beautiful ladies in the above pic) and their love for me pushes me to be a better friend. Take stock of who you’re around…
Alright! Well I love you all! And I wish you nothing but blessings this week. Happy Monday! And I leave you with this…

Proverbs 27:5-6 (NLT)
5 An open rebuke is better than hidden love!
6 Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.

Thanks again, God bless and One love.
-Quellz (komplex simplicity)


2 thoughts on “Who You’re Around (Friends vs Frienemies)

  1. Amen this post was the truth. I have hard-headedly (not that that’s a word) learned what true friendship is and what it truly means and I found out once you and the other girls as well came into my life. All those remarks you made about friends is so true and I agree!!! A friend to me is someone who is honest and loyal no matter what, who will tell you when your wrong but not judge you in anyway someone who will always be there no matter the bs and will try their best to keep you happy and laughing. Like you said have meaningless conversations and not awkward silences that is enjoyed!!!! There are many more characteristics I could list but these seem to be the most important. And in all of these I’m lucky enough to find a friend like you!!!! Love you =)

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