Life has consistently thrown expectations at you from an early age… you’re expected to behave a certain way, you’re expected to get good grades, you’re expected to graduate and get a good job. Who created these expectations that are so ingrained in us from an early age?
Expectation is basically a belief that something will happen or someone will or should achieve something… well did I ever have a choice in my expectations? Were you even aware of the last time someone expected you to do something?
Sometimes expecting something from someone leads us to disappointments when the person fails to meet impossible expectations.
Sooo there’s this quote “just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.” I’m sure there was someone somewhere complaining about the way they were being loved when this was written.
So the big question is… is it okay to place expectations on people?
Sure if you gave birth to me you’re expected to do a certain amount of child rearing. Things of that nature I’m not talking about…
Okay, for example, once I call you my friend am I to EXPECT a certain amount of loyalty from you? If yes, how much? Can we even really quantify such things?
I can’t speak for other people, but this is what I believe… expectations change as relationships change. Ex: I wouldn’t hold a boyfriend to the same expectations as a husband. But you also can’t EXPECT individuals to do things that haven’t been previously established. <– That right there is what leads to disappointments…
But also remember that people are HUMAN! Everyone is bound to make errors, and it’s not our right to cast judgment on errors as if we are not susceptible ourselves… it’s pretty hypocritical.
So the next time you expect something and it doesn’t happen… it’s okay! Don’t stress over things that you have no control over. There’s a pretty good chance that it wasn’t meant for you in the first place. As always, I leave you with this…
Philippians 4:6 (NLT)
6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.
Thanks again, God bless and One love.
-Quellz (komplex simplicity)