Please Secure Your Face Mask!

Screenshot_2015-08-17-08-31-21Happy Monday Friends!

I hope your weekends were filled with fellowship, family, and friends, and that your minds are clear going into the new week. If not… you probably need to secure your face mask.
You ever have a friend ask you to help them out with an issue? Only to realize that you can’t help because you haven’t even figured out the problem yourself?
How can we help others secure their issues if we haven’t secured our own?
Quick Example: you ever been on an airplane? While the flight attendant is giving instructions on what to do in case of an emergency, he/she tells you to first secure your oxygen mask and then secure those of young children or others that need assistance around you.
Now securing yourself could be easy… as simple as praying or taking time to just be! It doesn’t make you selfish to need “me time”. Having time for yourself allows you the allotted time needed to relax, to center yourself, and to unlock answers  you weren’t even aware you were looking for.
You ever been looking for something and can’t find it anywhere? Then stop looking for it and it appears lol… stuff like that!
Having trouble securing your mask?
Take a walk, meditate, read, participate in your favorite hobby, just be. Me time is not used for stressing either, but just the opposite, turning over your worries and preparing yourself to move forward. In solitude it is a lot easier to study the desires of your heart and hear God speak without the distractions of everything around you. It can also be used for rest and refreshment… it’s simply easier to secure ourselves while we are being still. I leave you with this…

Psalm 46:1 (NLT)
God is our refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble.

Until next time…Around Thursday… Or Friday =)…

Thanks again, God bless and One love.
-Quellz (komplex simplicity)

Multiplying Factors

Greetings friends,

I thought hard about NOT posting… the pass few days have been crazy and my meditation has been almost non-existent, allowing my mind to become so cluttered that I couldn’t get to the words I knew were in there… but because I believe most of you love a good story and a reason to think, here we go…

So Wednesday afternoon one of the children at my center begins to sing this song. At first I ignored the song but somewhere in my subconscious I remembered hearing it before. I listen to the child sing “I like to cha cha” for almost 30 minutes before I too began singing it in my head. Once the words escape from my mouth, I knew I was in trouble (lol). The child says “you need to download this song.” I respond by saying “is it inappropriate to play here?” The child of course says no. So I look up the lyrics to check and no it is not appropriate to play around the children. But the song is catchy, so for the rest of the day and evening “I like to cha cha.”
I became so worried about not thinking about it… I ended up thinking about it!
This is often times the same thing that happens when something is bothering us… we attempt to address it and then we think we let it go, only to continue stressing over the issue until the issue is larger than it originally was. Multiplying it until it’s out if control.

Quick example! When’s the last time you were having a semi-serious conversation over text (<– not the place to have a serious conversation) And someone took your words out of context because they couldn’t hear your tone of voice? Or halfway through the conversation the other person doesn’t text back immediately? Then you’re sitting there… waiting for the next text, but then you decide it doesn’t matter. All the while getting more angry that you never got a response. Then u actually see the person and all of a sudden a small issue has become a large issue. It wasn’t necessarily the small issue anymore, but the fact that you’ve been meditating over the fact that you weren’t responded to, ignored almost… over and over again! And then how would you feel if the other person said “I didn’t answer you because my phone battery died.”

Multiplying issues can become so easy that we do it without rational thought. So what issues are you multiplying? Can it be as simple as praying over it, then letting it go? Do we have to stress ourselves out looking for solutions, only to change original issues, and end up meditating on the negatives?
But remember, you are not alone…whatever you’re struggling with, so is someone else… Have a great Friday, a blessed weekend, and don’t sweat the little things!
I leave you with this…

1 Peter 5:8 NLT
Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. 9 Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. Remember that your family of believers all over the world is going through the same kind of suffering you are.

Thanks again, God bless and One love.
-Quellz (komplex simplicity)

P.S. Happy Birthday TT Penny!!!

Are you EXPECTING?

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Life has consistently thrown expectations at you from an early age… you’re expected to behave a certain way, you’re expected to get good grades, you’re expected to graduate and get a good job. Who created these expectations that are so ingrained in us from an early age?
Expectation is basically a belief that something will happen or someone will or should achieve something… well did I ever have a choice in my expectations? Were you even aware of the last time someone expected you to do something?
Sometimes expecting something from someone leads us to disappointments when the person fails to meet impossible expectations.
Sooo there’s this quote “just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.” I’m sure there was someone somewhere complaining about the way they were being loved when this was written.
So the big question is… is it okay to place expectations on people?
Sure if you gave birth to me you’re expected to do a certain amount of child rearing. Things of that nature I’m not talking about…
Okay, for example, once I call you my friend am I to EXPECT a certain amount of loyalty from you? If yes, how much? Can we even really quantify such things?
I can’t speak for other people, but this is what I believe… expectations change as relationships change. Ex: I wouldn’t hold a boyfriend to the same expectations as a husband. But you also can’t EXPECT individuals to do things that haven’t been previously established. <– That right there is what leads to disappointments…
But also remember that people are HUMAN! Everyone is bound to make errors, and it’s not our right to cast judgment on errors as if we are not susceptible ourselves… it’s pretty hypocritical.
So the next time you expect something and it doesn’t happen… it’s okay! Don’t stress over things that you have no control over. There’s a pretty good chance that it wasn’t meant for you in the first place. As always, I leave you with this…

Philippians 4:6 (NLT)

6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.

Thanks again, God bless and One love.
-Quellz (komplex simplicity)

The Thank You Card…

So Monday I received a card from a student who previously went to the center I work at. The card was great, but the personal message was even better! The card basically said how awesome of a staff I was, how they’ll miss me, and how they were glad I was in position to meet them when I did. Now I’m not a mushy person at all, but the card almost got me (lol). I would have never expected a card from this youth, granted they were in a few of the clubs I taught, they played that nonchalant card very well =). It really just goes to show that you never really know the impact that you have on a person…
Everyday, all day, we interact with other people, never really understanding the influence we have in their lives…
That feeling of purpose that comes along with just being yourself and not expecting a thank you but receiving one anyway is amazing. This is why the concept of karma is so important.
Cause and effect
Putting out the energy you want returned to you
Reaping what you sow
Do to others as you would like them to do to you (Luke 6:31 NLT)
It all boils down to who you are at your core… it also helps if you’re the same person all the time. I had a professor in college who asked us to do an assignment. Basically what you had to do was ask 3 people from different aspects of your life (ex. 1 friend, 1 family member, 1 coworker) to list 5 traits that you have. The point was to see if you’re living a consistent lifestyle. What do you think people would say about you? Will it line up? This honestly was one of the most important assignments I’ve ever done… period… but back to my point…
There is always someone watching what you’re doing, learning from your actions, and sometimes your mistakes.
Continue to be a blessing in other people’s lives by being yourself and putting out good energy. I leave you with this…

 Proverbs 26:27 NLT
If you set a trap for others,
you will get caught in it yourself.
If you roll a boulder down on others,  it will crush you instead.

Thanks again, God bless and One love.
-Quellz (komplex simplicity)

Maybe if we Could…

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I see you about 50 times a year…
And every time I see you my feelings are different
If I ever told you that I’m sorry for my conflicting emotions just know that I meant it
It’s just that…
Sometimes seeing you is as easy as Sunday mornings
And, sometimes seeing you is like being in mourning
You see…
The thought of not seeing you fills me with fear
But the thought of you being near fills me with an endless spectrum of emotional ranges
And it’s so hard!
Forcing me to want to get out of this emotional environment
Or maybe I’m just dealing with my sense of entitlement
Which really has no place in this
I was thinking…
Maybe if we could just reach a compromise
So this feeling of conflicting feelings can be modified
Into something I can better identify…
Maybe If we could just… rush through the time we have to spend together
Then I can trick myself into thinking that our time spent was better
But, never mind because if I speed up time then that just leaves me with less time to prepare my fragile feelings for the next time I have to see you, sooo…
Or or or…
Maybe if we could just find a better way to spend the day
Then I could come to appreciate
What seeing you really means
I mean, maybe if we could…
Never mind, you know what I’m trippin
I’m asking you to work this out when I just realized that its me acting different
Because like I said… I see you about 50 times a year and you’re always the same
So, I guess that means it’s me that has changed
But I have some more changing to do
Until then you and I should call a truce
Because I see days not so distant
Where the thought of us being together isn’t met with resistance
Even though, even now I should exalt in your existence, and I do…
See I was thinking that someday,
I wouldn’t even want to press the snooze button when my phone alarm rings it’s Monday.

Thanks again, God Bless and One love

-Quellz (komplex simplicity)

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